Messages to Ross . . .
Forty Two

04:15:55 AM
The Gift
By Joe Lawley (Co-founder of The Compassionate Friends)

I have a gift.
I did not want this gift, it meant suffering and pain.
The pain came because of love.
A love which had manifested itself in a child.
The child brought its love to me and asked for my love.
Sometimes I did not understand this.
Sometimes I did not appreciate it.
Sometimes I was too busy to listen quietly to this love.
But the love persisted; it was always there.
One day the child died.
The love remained.
This time the love came in other forms.
This time there were memories, there was sadness and anguish.
And unbelievable pain.
One day a stranger said, ‘I understand,’ and did.
You see the stranger had also been this way.
We talked and cried together.
The stranger became my friend as no other had.
My friend said, ‘I am always here,’ and was.
One day I lifted my head.
I noticed another grieving, gray and drawn with pain.
I approached and spoke.
I touched and comforted.
I said, ‘I will walk with you,’ and did.

I also had the gift.
08:21:06 AM
Hi Des

Just a little poem for you, I realise from Facebook that you have had such a terrible loss, I cannot imagine how painful it must be, all I know is the pain I feel when I have to say goodbye to my girls when they have been home on holiday, and they leave to go back overseas, and the pain I felt when I lost my parents, but cannot imagine the pain you must feel, after looking at the beautiful site you have created in memory of Ross I had such a heavy heart and couldn't sleep that night, just made what you had gone through so much more real to me and makes me appreciate each day so much more, have seen your photos of Ross, such a cuddle bunny reminds me of my second child, who from what I gather has a similar nature to Ross, I feel so for you and I am so impressed by the way you have dealt with your loss being so open and loving to others in the same situation, he looks so much like you it is quite uncanny. I admire your strength and wish you peace and happiness always.
Love Helenxxx

The Cord

We are connected, my child and I by and invisible cord not seen by the eye Its not like the cord that connects us till birth, this cord cant be seen by any on earth This cord does its work right from the start, it binds us together, attached to my heart I know that its there, though no one can see the invisible cord from my child to me.

The strength of this cord is hard to describe, it cant be destroyed, it cant be denied
Its stronger than any cord man could create, it withstands the test, can hold any weight
And though you are gone, though you're not here with me, the cord is still there but no one can see.

It pulls at my heart I am bruised ... I am sore, but this cord is my lifeline as never before.

I am thankful that God connects us this way, a mother and child.... death cant take it away!

12:01:21 AM
hallo special boy.. haven't spoken in a while, hope all is ok where you are. having a pretty hectic night but we getting there. you are so dearly missed down here but we'd all much rather be where you are.. peaceful, not a care in the world. we know you are with us everyday, laughing at how stupid we can be sometimes.. well,,, till next time. later xxx lis and cam
04:20:51 PM
Ross Anthony

Before you were conceived, i wanted you
Before you were born, I adored you
Before you were here an hour, I would die for you
This is the miracle of Life"

With all my love beautiful angel
Mom xxxxxx

08:46:47 AM
The death of a child, is never a finality.
For he lives on vividly, in his mothers mind, and the ache of loss increases with each passing year.
The anguish of his absence is a constant presence.
10:51:38 PM
Hi my beautiful, beautiful boy, I cant believe today is 19 months since you left us and it is Dad's birthday.... every day is terribly painful but I promise I am trying to heal this wound somehow. Love, love, love you xxx Mom xxx
10:48:02 PM
They are not dead,
Who leave us this great heritage of remembering joy.

They still live in our hearts,
In the happiness we knew, in the dreams we shared.

They still breathe,
In the lingering fragrance, windblown, from their favourite flowers.

They still smile in the moonlight’s silver, And laugh in the sunlight’s sparking gold.

They still speak in the echoes of the words we’ve heard them say again and again.

They still move,
In the rhythm of waving grasses, in the dance of the tossing branches.

They are not dead;
Their memory is warm in our hearts, comfort in our sorrow.

They are not apart from us, but part of us,

For love is eternal,

And those we love shall be with us throughout all eternity
and Jill, Shane will be in our hearts for eternity!!
and Des, Rossi will be in your heart for eternity!

Have a blessed day!!

10:05:42 PM
Hi my angel, life is really challenging without you xxx I am really missing you so much xxx
10:36:31 AM
i miss u rossy..and still think about u often xxxx
2:08:09 PM
Hi angel. I thought about you a lot this weekend and wish you a wonderful week ahead. Life will never be the same without you. Lots of love Yvonne
9:14:09 AM
Hi my angel boy, just want to say how beautiful Knysna is and so wish you could be with us physically. I know you are here though in spirit.... Thank you for our wonderful friends xx Olivia arrived yesterday and it is good to spend time with her..... I love you and miss you xx Mom xx
1:20:24 PM
You know Ross and I never hung out together outside of school probably because of the age difference but we still were pretty close and used to have the longest chats while on our smoke breaks. There was always something about him that saddened me even though he was always so happy and positive, I just always felt something was not right you know... I think he was here to bring alot of light to peoples lives even if it was for a short while, he will ALWAYS have a place in my heart thats for sure I remember always wanting to just grab him and hug him and tell him he would be fine you know... I thought it was weird at the time but I think maybe I knew I would not see him again.

We used to take ALOT of smoke breaks haha Collette Bliss Morey

10:02:41 PM
My precious boy, I have been thinking and thinking so much about you. I love you every single minute of each and every waking moment. xx Mom xx I miss you with every fibre of my being.


9:16:23 AM
I love and miss you every single day of my life my beautiful boy xxxx Mom xxxxx
6:12:30 PM
missing you brother:( love u rossie..
cindz xo

2:35:33 PM
Hey Rossie. I just really wanted to let you know that you are still and always will the shining light in everyone's eyes. I think about you and talk to you everyday. Stay close angel. Miss and love you. Yvonne
8:59:23 PM
Wow, i have so much to tell you..... but until I get around to it you need to know how i am missing you .... boy o boy !!! this is not fun.... love love love you xxxx Mom xxxx
6:58:11 AM
ross! im so sorry i havent spoken 2 u in ages!
been tooo long!:(but we love you! an missing u mor and more! mwah. your with us always bro! love cindz, an dean!

5:17:02 PM
I love you so so much my beautiful boy xxx wish i could hold you and speak to you xxx
9:13:41 AM
We'll Meet Again...

Time to go, the light awaits
A friendly face by open gates
It's not about what's left behind
But peace and joy you're soon to find
Close your eyes be not afraid

Life's not about how long you stayed
It's a reflection of the lives you touch To whom you've cared and loved so much
The time is short, yet all is done

You need not race the setting sun
For dawn is near a world anew
Is there and is awaiting you
The time for tears is long since gone

Its time for you to be moving on
No need this time for long good-byes
We'll meet again just close your eyes

Love you my boy xxxx Mom xxxx


8:44:18 AM
Hey Rossi
Just popping by to tell you what you already know, and that is, you have an awesum mum!! She is one in a million and has been my rock since my son, Shane, passed. As she is looking after me here, please will you keep an eye out for Shane.We love you boys so much and miss you truckloads and thank you for all the signs that you share with us. With Love Jill XX
8:43:58 AM
hey hunny lng tym sowi been really busy have had no time 4 my fb... wow u have ben really missed dwn here ey,spoke 2 ur ma once or twice she really misses u cn understand y...hvnt ben 2 da nrth since u left until da oda day doesnt hv dat same vibe anymre,u da legend dat we al miss wel got 2 go jst rem u missd n loved n neva 4gotten tonz
8:43:07 AM
Hi Rossi
Today is Shanes birthday, he isl22. We are all going to send him 22 white balloons and then go for a drink afterwards. Please will you make sure that he has a festive time and make sure he says a speech ha ha. Tell him his mom and sister love him so much and miss him more than words can say. Please be with him Rossi and tell Shane to be sure to look for his 22 white balloons tomorrow. Lotsa loveXJill and TeaganX
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