By Joe Lawley (Co-founder of The Compassionate
I have a gift.
I did not want this gift, it meant suffering and
The pain came because of love.
A love which had manifested itself in a child.
The child brought its love to me and asked for
Sometimes I did not understand this.
Sometimes I did not appreciate it.
Sometimes I was too busy to listen quietly to
But the love persisted; it was always there.
One day the child died.
The love remained.
This time the love came in other forms.
This time there were memories, there was sadness
And unbelievable pain.
One day a stranger said, ‘I understand,’ and
You see the stranger had also been this way.
We talked and cried together.
The stranger became my friend as no other had.
My friend said, ‘I am always here,’ and was.
One day I lifted my head.
I noticed another grieving, gray and drawn with
I approached and spoke.
I touched and comforted.
I said, ‘I will walk with you,’ and did.
I also had the gift.
Just a little poem for you, I realise from
Facebook that you have had such a terrible loss,
I cannot imagine how painful it must be, all I
know is the pain I feel when I have to say
goodbye to my girls when they have been home on
holiday, and they leave to go back overseas, and
the pain I felt when I lost my parents, but
cannot imagine the pain you must feel, after
looking at the beautiful site you have created
in memory of Ross I had such a heavy heart and
couldn't sleep that night, just made what you
had gone through so much more real to me and
makes me appreciate each day so much more, have
seen your photos of Ross, such a cuddle bunny
reminds me of my second child, who from what I
gather has a similar nature to Ross, I feel so
for you and I am so impressed by the way you
have dealt with your loss being so open and
loving to others in the same situation, he looks
so much like you it is quite uncanny. I admire
your strength and wish you peace and happiness
We are connected, my child and I by and
invisible cord not seen by the eye Its not like
the cord that connects us till birth, this cord
cant be seen by any on earth This cord does its
work right from the start, it binds us together,
attached to my heart I know that its there,
though no one can see the invisible cord from my
child to me.
The strength of this cord is hard to describe,
it cant be destroyed, it cant be denied
Its stronger than any cord man could create, it
withstands the test, can hold any weight
And though you are gone, though you're not here
with me, the cord is still there but no one can
It pulls at my heart I am bruised ... I am sore,
but this cord is my lifeline as never before.
I am thankful that God connects us this way, a
mother and child.... death cant take it away!
hallo special boy.. haven't spoken in a while,
hope all is ok where you are. having a pretty
hectic night but we getting there. you are so
dearly missed down here but we'd all much rather
be where you are.. peaceful, not a care in the
world. we know you are with us everyday,
laughing at how stupid we can be sometimes..
well,,, till next time. later xxx lis and cam
Before you were conceived, i wanted you
Before you were born, I adored you
Before you were here an hour, I would die for
This is the miracle of Life"
With all my love beautiful angel
The death of a child, is never a finality.
For he lives on vividly, in his mothers mind,
and the ache of loss increases with each passing
The anguish of his absence is a constant
Hi my beautiful, beautiful boy, I cant believe
today is 19 months since you left us and it is
Dad's birthday.... every day is terribly painful
but I promise I am trying to heal this wound
somehow. Love, love, love you xxx Mom xxx
They are not dead,
Who leave us this great heritage of remembering
They still live in our hearts,
In the happiness we knew, in the dreams we
They still breathe,
In the lingering fragrance, windblown, from
their favourite flowers.
They still smile in the moonlight’s silver, And
laugh in the sunlight’s sparking gold.
They still speak in the echoes of the words
we’ve heard them say again and again.
They still move,
In the rhythm of waving grasses, in the dance of
the tossing branches.
They are not dead;
Their memory is warm in our hearts, comfort in
They are not apart from us, but part of us,
For love is eternal,
And those we love shall be with us throughout
and Jill, Shane will be in our hearts for
and Des, Rossi will be in your heart for
Have a blessed day!!
Hi my angel, life is really challenging without
you xxx I am really missing you so much xxx
i miss u rossy..and still think about u often
Hi angel. I thought about you a lot this weekend
and wish you a wonderful week ahead. Life will
never be the same without you. Lots of love
Hi my angel boy, just want to say how beautiful
Knysna is and so wish you could be with us
physically. I know you are here though in
spirit.... Thank you for our wonderful friends
xx Olivia arrived yesterday and it is good to
spend time with her..... I love you and miss you
xx Mom xx
You know Ross and I never hung out together
outside of school probably because of the age
difference but we still were pretty close and
used to have the longest chats while on our
smoke breaks. There was always something about
him that saddened me even though he was always
so happy and positive, I just always felt
something was not right you know... I think he
was here to bring alot of light to peoples lives
even if it was for a short while, he will ALWAYS
have a place in my heart thats for sure I
remember always wanting to just grab him and hug
him and tell him he would be fine you know... I
thought it was weird at the time but I think
maybe I knew I would not see him again.
We used to take ALOT of smoke breaks haha
Collette Bliss Morey
My precious boy, I have been thinking and
thinking so much about you. I love you every
single minute of each and every waking moment.
xx Mom xx I miss you with every fibre of my
I love and miss you every single day of my life
my beautiful boy xxxx Mom xxxxx
missing you brother:( love u rossie..
Hey Rossie. I just really wanted to let you know
that you are still and always will the shining
light in everyone's eyes. I think about you and
talk to you everyday. Stay close angel. Miss and
love you. Yvonne
Wow, i have so much to tell you..... but until I
get around to it you need to know how i am
missing you .... boy o boy !!! this is not
fun.... love love love you xxxx Mom xxxx
ross! im so sorry i havent spoken 2 u in ages!
been tooo long!:(but we love you! an missing u
mor and more! mwah. your with us always bro!
love cindz, an dean!
I love you so so much my beautiful boy xxx wish
i could hold you and speak to you xxx
We'll Meet Again...
Time to go, the light awaits
A friendly face by open gates
It's not about what's left behind
But peace and joy you're soon to find
Close your eyes be not afraid
Life's not about how long you stayed
It's a reflection of the lives you touch To whom
you've cared and loved so much
The time is short, yet all is done
You need not race the setting sun
For dawn is near a world anew
Is there and is awaiting you
The time for tears is long since gone
Its time for you to be moving on
No need this time for long good-byes
We'll meet again just close your eyes
Love you my boy xxxx Mom xxxx
Just popping by to tell you what you already
know, and that is, you have an awesum mum!! She
is one in a million and has been my rock since
my son, Shane, passed. As she is looking after
me here, please will you keep an eye out for
Shane.We love you boys so much and miss you
truckloads and thank you for all the signs that
you share with us. With Love Jill XX
hey hunny lng tym sowi been really busy have had
no time 4 my fb... wow u have ben really missed
dwn here ey,spoke 2 ur ma once or twice she
really misses u cn understand y...hvnt ben 2 da
nrth since u left until da oda day doesnt hv dat
same vibe anymre,u da legend dat we al miss wel
got 2 go jst rem u missd n loved n neva 4gotten
Today is Shanes birthday, he isl22. We are all
going to send him 22 white balloons and then go
for a drink afterwards. Please will you make
sure that he has a festive time and make sure he
says a speech ha ha. Tell him his mom and sister
love him so much and miss him more than words
can say. Please be with him Rossi and tell Shane
to be sure to look for his 22 white balloons
tomorrow. Lotsa loveXJill and TeaganX
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